I find myself troubled lately by the recent behavior of a roommate of mine with one of her friends —a young man, no less! She seems to believe she is being discrete, yet I can hardly imagine anyone has failed to noticed how casually she acts around him. Now, while I don't suspect anything untoward, it's clear that they are quite close, perhaps more than she realizes.

Everything we're taught about propriety in our etiquette lessons seems to urge more formality and distance around the opposite sex. And there must be good sense for the discipline we maintain, else why would it be taught so strongly, or exceptions be so vividly —even harshly— judged? Why, should I chance to pick up a copy of Witch Weekly, I am almost certain to find a reminder of how poorly such lapses are viewed by Society.

The trouble is, cousin, I believe she truly does value the friendship with this young man. I could no sooner step between them than I could swear off Miss Moony or Miss Gillenwater myself. It almost feels cruel to consider intervening when her only lapse in judgement is the unfortunate circumstance of his being born the wrong sex. Nevertheless, I feel it might be wise to say something to her, and yet I lack the cleverness for words in person, or clairvoyance for their effect. What would you suggest?

I would very much welcome your advice on how best to approach her, as I can hardly follow her around to keep them apart myself!

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