So! Ben told Melody he loved her for the first time after they'd been married a year.

Apparently, he privately thought he was in love with her a lot earlier than that — in this post he implies that even the potion she drugged him with wouldn't have gotten him to agree to marrying her if he hadn't already been in love.

I imagine it didn't come up in his posts for a long time because thinking about it head-on would have meant accepting that he was at least partly culpable for their disaster marriage. Anyway! Fun discoveries!