(November 19, 2018 – 10:38 PM)Elsie Beauregard Wrote:  

(November 19, 2018 – 10:30 PM)Ursula Black Wrote:  She's out of the age range but I think Adelia Lovegood might actually be a good fit otherwise? She's not currently into Hippogriffs right now but it's something she could quite reasonably fall into. She's also in a place rn where she could easily find herself rushing into marriage should someone ask her. Not saying she's about to marry ANYONE but she's lowered the bar a bit since Balt in terms of how deep her feelings are.

You snuck in haha! I'm not opposed, but I think the age thing might be tricky? I don't know how to navigate that one?

So I've always been like really rigidly WOMAN ALWAYS MARRY AN OLDER MAN OR ELSE IT IS SOCIALLY WEIRD but actually there have been many instances in books and rl historical stuff I've read/watched/etc. over the years where a woman has been a little bit older and apparently it's not a big deal? And I'm always like BUT?>?!?!??! Like obviously not a 19 year old marrying a 17 year old boy but an established man marrying a slightly older woman. I think typically it was done when the woman was a widow (wc class with kids in particular for financial support) or a spinster and didn't have a whole lot of options. There was apparently a huge gender ratio disparity in the 1800s where women outnumbered men considerably (I guess our census wasn't really so out of whack for all those years) which I didn't know until I read The Odd Women a few weeks ago. I keep stumbling across things like that that give the impression it really wasn't as big of a deal as I thought it was so I'm trying to adjust my perception.