14 September, 1893*
Cautious,
Everything you've written seems a parallel to my own feelings on the matter. It's not an exact correlation; I don't have anything hereditary per se. But people who grow up in my family tend to make certain choices — choices I made too, and later regretted — and I don't want to bring children into that. It might not be forced upon them the way you describe, but asking children to make choices without the full context of what they're choosing doesn't seem much better, to my mind.
Re-reading this paragraph I worry that you'll come away with a devilish view of my family. They mean well. They're supportive and loyal. I didn't have a bad childhood. They're just misguided on certain things, and it seems unlikely that will ever change.
As for what I want... I thought I was content with my life, too, until this summer. Then something happened that made me realize how much I was missing. I want conversations with someone that go deeper than the pleasantries we exchange at balls and garden parties. I want someone who would tell me about their bad days and care to listen to mine.
What are you looking for?
Inquisitive
Everything you've written seems a parallel to my own feelings on the matter. It's not an exact correlation; I don't have anything hereditary per se. But people who grow up in my family tend to make certain choices — choices I made too, and later regretted — and I don't want to bring children into that. It might not be forced upon them the way you describe, but asking children to make choices without the full context of what they're choosing doesn't seem much better, to my mind.
Re-reading this paragraph I worry that you'll come away with a devilish view of my family. They mean well. They're supportive and loyal. I didn't have a bad childhood. They're just misguided on certain things, and it seems unlikely that will ever change.
As for what I want... I thought I was content with my life, too, until this summer. Then something happened that made me realize how much I was missing. I want conversations with someone that go deeper than the pleasantries we exchange at balls and garden parties. I want someone who would tell me about their bad days and care to listen to mine.
What are you looking for?
*author's note: sent in the morning, before dragon attack news — but feel free to have her not reply for a while!